New Year’s isn’t just for improving your fitness and finances. It’s for improving your heart.

We live increasingly frantic, often isolated lives. As our community becomes virtual our real lives become empty. Even surrounded by people, we can be alone. Yet as much as technology allows us to work more and mingle less, it can also help connect or re-connect in real life. That can mean strengthening your existing relationships or finding new ones, enjoying quick encounters or making long-term plans. No matter who you are or what you’re looking for, here are the best iPhone apps to get your heart beating in harmony this New Year!

Meeting: Tinder, Grindr, and Brenda

Whether you’re looking for a quick fling or hoping to strike up something more substantial, you’ve got to meet new people. Tinder —which also offers an Apple Watch app—lets you and others anonymously express interest in each other, and if and when a match occurs, lets you make contact and see what happens. Grindr focuses specifically on the gay and male bisexual community, and Brenda on the lesbian and female bisexual community. Whoever and whatever you’re looking for, one of them will suit your desires.

• Tinder – Free – Download now
• Grindr – Free – Download now
• Findhrr – Free – Download now

Dating: Plenty of Fish, OKCupid

At some point you may not want to meet not just someone, but the one. There’s not an app in the ‘verse that can guarantee that, of course, but there are some that focus less on the hookup and more on the matchup. You’re still playing the odds, but hopefully they get stacked a little more in your favor. OKCupid—which offers an Apple Watch app—is a classic, and for a reason. If you’re just starting out, it’s also an OK place to start. Plenty of Fish, on the other hand, has over 50 million members and a lot of features to help you meet the right one, in the right place, at the right time.

• OKCupid – Free with IAP – Download now
• POF – Free with IAP – Download now

Messaging: Snapchat, Avocado

Communication is vital to intimacy. Not the general banter we engage in every day, and often barely listen to. But the flirting, the sharing of hopes and dreams, secrets and desires—the things we would only every share with each other. Snapchat is what pretty much everyone uses these days for ephemeral messaging. Avocado—which also offers an Apple Watch app—is a messaging app designed specifically for couples so you can share text and picture outside Messages and the Camera Roll. With either, you can share something that exists, privately, only between the two of you.

• Snapchat – Download now
• Avacado – Free with subscription option – Download now

Dining: Foursquare and OpenTable

Casual or candle-lit, fast or fine, classic or fusion, trendy or timeless, there are all kinds of restaurants for all kinds of occasions. If it’s a first encounter, maybe you want a coffee or pastry shop to keep things light and informal. If it’s a budding romance, maybe you want someplace that’ll help stoke the fires. If it’s a getaway from your everyday, maybe you want someplace that’ll let you fall in love all over again. The updated iOS 9 Maps app is great for finding local fare. For more, Foursquare—and its Apple Watch app—offers the best social recommendations. And once you find the perfect place, OpenTable—also with an Apple Watch app—can help make sure you get a reservation. (OpenTable even integrates with Siri, which makes it quick and easy to start the process.)

• Free – Foursquare
• Free – OpenTable

Getting away: Hotel Tonight

If you live with family or roommates, finding time and space to be alone together can be tough. If you have kids, finding time and space to be alone together can be almost impossible. Yet that’s the very thing that takes your relationship to the next level, or helps you get back to that level. If you have a little extra cash, if you can arrange for someone to watch the kids, Hotel Tonight—and its Apple Watch app—can help you find a room for a get-away or even an oasis right near home. And it’ll even let you book with ApplePay!

• Free – Download now

Your favorites?

Whether you’re looking to connect or re-connect, what iPhone or iPad apps will you be turning to for love this year?